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Wise yet unsolicited advice

I’m feeling all mature and klassy (hence the Chanel-y sweaterdress), so the following is a dose of wise-yet-unsolicited advice:

  • Do not attempt to wear 4-hour shoes* for 6.5 hours. There will be much gnashing of teeth as you attempt to strut around all “it’s all good” in order to save face, and your feet will remind you of the torture you put them through for the remainder of the day and into the next morning. Those bishes can hold a grudge.
  • Some people are just not nice, even when you are. Don’t blame yourself. To paraphrase the ever-astute George Costanza, it’s not you, it’s them.
  • Don’t get rid of things that hold sentimental value, no matter how utterly useless they seem. Even if you’re in the midst of a zen cleanse/let’s purge this mutha like an episode of Hoarders mood, pause. Relax. Set it aside.

For example, I bought this little purse from a street vendor in Paris during a trip to France when I was 17. It  could have been purchased at any Rave store** circa 1997, and now it barely holds my keys and cell phone, but it’s a tangible reminder of a time when I was young/stupid/spoiled/happy.  Now I’m much smarte…well, I ain’t young.

Thrifted dress, H&M necklace (last seen here), Charles David heels

Have a great weekend!

*There are certain shoes you can wear to walk/stand/generally function as an adult but only for a certain amount of time. Y’all know what I mean.

**Rave was the trashtastic precursor to Forever21 and its ilk. Don’t front like you never bought sheer poly-blend blouses and stretchy lightning-wash jeans there…Much like everyone does now at F21.


  • Fajr | Stylish Thought

    October 22, 2010 at 10:35 am

    Love that second picture of your kneeling down! I live by the George Costanza gospel!

    • tamia

      October 22, 2010 at 6:22 pm

      @Fajr And you wanna be my latex salesman…

      Couldn’t resist!

  • Joslyn

    October 22, 2010 at 12:34 pm

    Ahhh yes the good ole save face when yo feet are killing!! Been there done that TOO many times…. Hopefully those ADORABLE shoes are comfy, I just love the color!!
    Keep up the great posts!!

  • Tamu

    October 22, 2010 at 4:39 pm

    Sage advice and great outfit. Man, do I miss the days when I could count on Contempo Casuals, 5/7/9, and Fashionation for a cute, not-too-pricey outfit!

    • tamia

      October 22, 2010 at 6:21 pm

      @Tamu Oh, Contempo and 5-7-9, how I mourn thee! I remember buying an MC Hammer-esque ensemble from 5-7-9 and thinking I was the dopest EVER.

  • Vilese

    October 22, 2010 at 4:43 pm

    loving this ensemble as well as the advice. “/let’s purge this mutha like an episode of Hoarders mood, pause. Relax. Set it aside.” made me LOL.

    • tamia

      October 22, 2010 at 6:24 pm

      @Vilese You know how it is when you get in one of those “get rid of all of it!” moods

  • Olga Olnu AllroundGyal

    October 22, 2010 at 5:06 pm

    Giiirl I really enjoyed browsing your site. All the looks suit you so well, I especially love this one: https://thestylesample.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/09/wifey3.jpg
    All good to you! x Olga

  • Aamba

    October 22, 2010 at 5:12 pm

    Oh yeah, Rave at the Rochester mall is where I got all my clothes in college!

    By the way, thanks for your posts about Indian bridal jewelry. I have some dramatic jewelry from my Indian dance costume (bharatnatyam) and I never thought to use those as “statement” necklaces. They are perfect! I would not have thought of that without you.

    • tamia

      October 22, 2010 at 6:26 pm

      @Aamba That sounds lovely, glad I could “help” in some way!

  • Nathalie

    October 23, 2010 at 9:10 am

    Haha, such a refreshing post. First of all, fabulous and classy look, but also your advice made me smile

  • Caramelnaps

    October 23, 2010 at 9:07 pm

    Tamia I love this look! I bought some tights today:) Man I had some old school sweater dresses in college! Gotta grab some up.

  • Beautifully Invisible

    October 26, 2010 at 8:42 pm

    Excellent advice, especially the bit about holding onto things that have sentimental value. I “purged” not that long ago because of a break-up and put quite a few pieces in storage even though I wanted to pitch them. I figured I’d be better off waiting to truly purge when more time had passed.

    LOve the photos – that dress is beautiful!

    • tamia

      October 27, 2010 at 8:46 pm

      @Beautifully Invisible: Ah, storage–great idea!

  • Alicia

    October 27, 2010 at 12:54 am

    I wouldn’t even call Rave a precursor. They were down the walkway from each other in the mall by my house. LOL.

    • tamia

      October 27, 2010 at 8:48 pm

      @Alicia: I live in podunk-land, so by the time F21 was on its way in, Rave (and their awesome plastic shoes) was already a thing of the past!

  • Jenny

    October 27, 2010 at 11:24 am

    no frontin’ here, I totally shopped at Rave!

    I looooove those shoes, even if though they are feet killers.